It’s 2018, and today it’s hard to find people who have never tried online dating. While I don’t think finding love on the Internet has the negative connotation it used to, there are still plenty of individuals who don’t believe in — and to those non-believers I say: just try it!
So I made a profile, and honestly, online dating has been quite the adventure for me. And regardless of your sexual orientation, it really has a long list of benefits. Here are some of my favorites:
It helps you leave your comfort zone.
Putting yourself out there, creating a profile with a picture of yourself and sending a message to a complete stranger is actually quite nerve-wracking. Talk with a random person, making a first impression! What picture to put as your profile picture? What to say about myself in my bio? How to start a message and not to be boring nor over-the-top? These questions will run through your mind, but it takes courage to go for it anyway. You get comfortable with being uncomfortable when you realize that everyone else out there is just as vulnerable as you are.
You meet different kinds of people
I’ve dated a handful of people I met online. I’m not sure our paths would have ever crossed in real life. First, because we don’t live in the same area, but secondly, because they go out in different places. It might not have worked out with all of them in the end, but I can honestly say that the people I met online were some of the most interesting and memorable people. I learned a lot from them and I am so glad our lives intersected, even if only for a few weeks or a few months at a time.
Experience makes it perfect
With online dating, you don’t have to wait to meet someone to ask on a date or wait for someone to ask you — in “real life” that could take months. Online, you can get more dates in a shorter period of time. You know how people say that every job interview you go on, whether it leads to a job or not, are at least “interview experience?” And you know how you get more comfortable going on job interviews every time you do it because they all ask similar questions.
That’s exactly what first dates are like. Sure, when you go on a date with a new person for the first time, you’re still going to feel those nerves and butterflies, but with each date you go on, you learn more about what works for you and what doesn’t.
Teaches you not to be passive
Some people say, “Good things come to those who wait.” I say, “Good things come to those who put themselves out there and try hard.” Sure, the man/woman of your dreams isn’t going to appear out of thin air just because you messaged 100 people on dating site, but I believe that when you take initiative to do something you want to do, good things will happen.
They might not be the exact thing you set out to obtain, you might meet someone online who turns out to be a really good friend or who points you in the direction of a new career path instead of being your lifelong love, but they will add to your life regardless. It’s all about deciding what you want in your life and going for it.
You learn a lot about your likes and dislikes
Like, what do you do when someone sends you long text on how beautiful you are and how you have lots of common things, but it’s so over the top that you’re thoroughly freaked out? And when you’ve been messaging someone for quite some time , and all of a sudden, they just stop replying — as if you are not even a human being on the other end of cyberspace, as if you are just a username not even worthy of simple explanation- “I met someone but it was really nice talking to you” message? Awkward situations provide some important lessons about human nature.